I’m usually not one to make resolutions year after year. Why? Because they usually fail. I think there’s so much pressure in the new year to make drastic life changes that it becomes overwhelming and hard to keep up with after the first few days. I prefer to make goals that I know are achievable, whether they are short term or long term, that can change and evolve with my life as the months go by. Last year I made a list of goals I wanted to work on for the year and I think I did pretty good at most of them.
– find a way to enjoy working out at home – yes! I found that yoga at home is something that I love to do and kept up with all year round. I no longer dread my workouts and don’t have to struggle to motivate me to work harder.
– practice more yoga – see above. I think my yoga came a long way in the last year. I can consistently hold a headstand, unsupported from a wall, I landed my first side crow and bird of paradise and am getting closer to having the strength for forearm stand. If I continue working as hard as I did, I know I can improve even more drastically in the coming year.
– be more present when I’m with Liam – Yes and no. My cell phone can still be a big distraction when I’m at home and we spend a lot of time FaceTiming with Grandma and Grandpa. However, when we are doing special activities together, my phone always gets put on ‘do not disturb’ mode and only comes out if I absolutely want to capture the moment in a photo.
– read more, text less – I started the year reading a ton before bed, but lost interest in the stack of books I had and found myself scrolling through my phone more and more before bed. I’ve picked up some books that I don’t want to put down and moved my alarm clock/docking station away from my bed so my phone is put away to avoid distraction
– work on my budget – I did really well with this until the holiday season hit. I’m revisiting my budget again this month to make some changes and will be back on it faithfully going forward.
– travel, doesn’t matter how far – I went to Vancouver with my parents.
– connect with friends – While I still feel I don’t see many of my friends as often as I want, I’ve made an effort to check in via text messages or phone calls more often.
This year I really want to focus on three main things:
-Wake up early to get my workouts done first thing in the morning, so I can have some more downtime in the evening. Waking up for me has been difficult since going back to work as a parent. I hit snooze until the last possible second and spend my morning rushing trying to get ready, get breakfast made and rushing Liam out the door. I never used to be a person that hit snooze so this really bugs me that I’ve developed that habit. My evenings after Liam goes to bed are struggling to fit in a workout, blog work, shower and go to bed. I very rarely just relax in the evenings. I know that as Liam gets older, he will stay up later, and my window to get work done in the evening will get smaller. I’ve already started working on this goal last week, moving my alarm clock away from my bed so I’m forced to get out of bed to shut it off. The first three days were a little difficult, but I know once my body gets used to it, it will be a really good thing for me. Having some me time, whether it’s just to take a bath, read a book, or watch a show, is really important and something I’ve been missing or feeling guilty about when I did indulge.
– Unplug more. I’m seeing this is a common theme amongst a lot of you this year. This is something I tried to work on in 2014 and want to continue to work on this year as well. I spend far too much time staring at screens. Part of moving my alarm clock (which is a docking station for my phone as well) is helping with this, as I put my phone on ‘do not disturb’ mode, plug it in and crawl into bed to read instead of scrolling through social media before bed. I really love the ‘do not disturb’ function, because I don’t have to be distracted by my phone buzzing or lighting up, but know that if someone important needs to get ahold of me, my phone will ring for them. I will be utilizing this function more throughout the year, when I know I need to focus on the people I’m with or activity I’m doing. I also need to remind myself that I’m really not going to miss anything if I don’t check Twitter and Instagram all day long….I’m such an addict, but at least I admit it.
– Let go. I’ve been learning that I can’t always control everything, especially when it comes to Liam’s life away from me. I’m learning to let go of those things that I can’t control and not letting them get to me, stress me out, cause me anxiety, etc. This will be so much better for my mental health. Considering that I have enough stressors being a single parent, working full time, juggling my blog, volunteer work, keeping healthy and staying connected with friends and family, the last thing I need is to be worrying about stuff I can’t do anything about.
I know it seems kind of contradictory to say that I don’t really believe in resolutions when I’ve just posted three things that pretty much look and sound like resolutions, doesn’t it? Well, the difference here is that resolutions are often so broad with no real measurable outcome or action plan to achieve them. I keep a journal beside my bed and every night I write three things that I’m grateful for from the day, but also a personal goal. Those mini goals, all help to build up to success in reaching my long term goals. It always takes a few steps to make it to your final destination, so keep that in mind when you’re deciding on what goals you want to make yourself for the future.
To help you reach your goals this year, I’m giving away one of my favourite organizational tools, a Be-Filled planner! This is my second year using these wonderful planners and I’m so excited to be able to share one with one of you. I use my planner to not only keep track of mine and Liam’s appointments, but planning out my blog calendar, my workout schedule, my goals, to do lists, and whatever random notes I need to remember. It’s got lots of room to plan each day, or the month as a whole, lots of blank pages to fill up with your life plans, a pocket and a pouch to keep everything you need with you. Not only that, but there are inspiring quotes, puzzles and fun prints throughout. Oh, and did I mention it’s a local company out of Lethbridge? Amazing. If you don’t have one yet, go place your order. I promise they are worth every penny. Just follow the Rafflecopter below to enter the giveaway. I will announce a winner on Monday morning!